Do you ever feel like there just aren’t enough hours in the day? Do you find yourself constantly adding tasks to your “To Do” list, only to find that more obligations keep finding their way onto it? It can be overwhelming, and it’s a feeling that I’m sure we can all relate to. But here’s the thing: how we manage that overwhelm can make all the difference in our future success.
As someone who owns two businesses and is active in Toastmasters, I know all too well the feeling of overwhelm. But I’ve also learned a few lessons along the way that I’d like to share with you:
First, it’s important to distinguish between being busy and being productive. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if we’re constantly doing something, we must be making progress. But the truth is that some tasks just keep us busy without actually moving us forward. So, it’s important to strike a balance between these kinds of tasks and those that will actually help us achieve our goals.
Second, don’t be afraid to ask for help. It can be hard to let go of control and trust someone else to oversee a task, but sometimes it’s necessary. And when you do ask for help, you’re not only giving yourself some relief, but you’re also giving someone else the opportunity to feel needed and useful.
Finally, set boundaries and learn to say “No” more often. It’s okay to prioritize your own needs and wants over those of others. Saying “No” can be uncomfortable, but it’s better than saying “Yes” and then feeling resentful later.
Check out Brené Brown’s audiobook, “Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection and Courage.” In it, she explains how to practice saying “No.” by standing in front of a mirror and saying different ways to say, “No.” Try these out – “I’m honored, but I can’t.” “Thank you for considering me; I will have to pass at this time.” “The timing is not good currently. Keep me in mind for the future.”
So, the next time you feel overwhelmed, take a moment to evaluate why you feel that way. Then, take the next best step to regain control. Remember that you deserve to have peace in your pursuit of success. Say “Yes” to yourself and yes to a more fulfilling, productive life.
And if you need some extra support in achieving that balance, consider working with a leadership coach. They can help you identify your priorities and create a plan to achieve them. You deserve to live a life that’s both successful and fulfilling.
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