You’re Doing Enough (And You’re Not Alone)
The nagging question, “Am I doing enough?” haunts many of us, me included. As a leadership coach, wife, travel agent, Toastmasters leader, daughter, soon-to-be grandma, and friend, I juggle an ever-growing list of roles. This endless pursuit of “enough” can be exhausting. But what if we reframed the question?
Firstly, you’re not alone in this feeling. The pressure to do it all is immense, fueled by social media and comparisons that rarely paint the full picture. We forget that everyone’s “enough” looks different, shaped by unique circumstances, resources, and priorities.
Instead of a singular, unattainable “enough,” let’s explore markers of well-being across different areas:
Health:
- Celebrate movement: Did you get some form of exercise, even if it’s just a walk or yoga session? Celebrate each step towards your personal health goals.
- Listen to your body: Regular checkups, healthy eating, and enough sleep are crucial for long-term health.
- Remember, progress, not perfection: Don’t beat yourself up over occasional indulgences or missed workouts.
Work & Productivity:
- Define “enough” for each role: Set realistic goals for each area based on your priorities and energy.
- Track progress, not perfection: Did you deliver a successful client meeting? Did you make progress on your business goals? Celebrate these wins!
- Outsource what you can: Delegate tasks you can’t manage alone or consider hiring help. A coach can help you prioritize and avoid burnout.
- Say “no” more often: Protect your time and energy by politely declining tasks that don’t align with your priorities.
Relationships:
- Quality over quantity: Focus on meaningful connections, even if it means fewer interactions.
- Set boundaries: Protect your personal time and avoid overcommitting.
- Communicate openly: Share your needs and limitations with loved ones.
Remember:
- Compare to yourself, not others: Their journey is different. Focus on your own growth and goals.
- Give yourself grace: We all make mistakes and have setbacks. Forgive yourself and learn from them.
- Seek support: An accountability partner or coach can offer a safe space to process your challenges and set healthy boundaries.
Making it Happen:
To implement these insights effectively, consider utilizing technology and coaching support:
- Apps like FitOn, Calendar apps, and Task apps can aid in health tracking, task management, and mindfulness.
- Reach out to professionals like VSM Coaching who specialize in work-life balance and leadership. Their expertise can be a valuable asset as you navigate the complexities of your commitments.
Finding Your Peace:
Now, as you reflect on your own definition of “enough,” I encourage you to take action. If you find yourself overwhelmed, uncertain, or in need of support, don’t hesitate to reach out. Whether it’s through technology or the guidance of a coach, there are resources available to assist you in:
- Recalibrating your balance: Define your priorities and delegate tasks to reclaim precious time and energy.
- Making meaningful adjustments: Set realistic goals, establish healthy boundaries, and say “no” more often.
- Finding peace amidst the chaos: Embrace mindfulness practices, prioritize self-care, and celebrate your journey.
As I have been asking the questions “Am I Doing Enough? Taking time to reflect on what is “enough” has been helpful. When it comes to my aging parents, I stepped back to determine the number of visits, interactions, errands with my parents weekly to make me feel satisfied that I am doing enough for them to maintain a positive life for them.
Am I doing enough? Each week, I review what I accomplished that week. I celebrate the wins. What is still on my task list either gets moved to the next week, pushed to another week, or pushed aside. Maybe it was only important to me and does not affect anyone else or my business. Then I must release it- not think about. Allow myself to move on and know that it was not important enough to use my energy and records towards it.
In the journey towards “enough,” remember that support is not a sign of weakness but a demonstration of strength. Embrace the opportunities for growth, celebrate your victories, and continue to strive for a harmonious blend of productivity, well-being, and fulfillment.
I’m here to support you on your journey. Schedule your free consultation today to discover personalized strategies for finding your “enough.”